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Break Free: The True Way to Happiness

Anthony Parkes — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 23:51:01 +0000

When you complain, half the people don’t care, and the other half think you deserve it.

I can’t realize how much time I’ve spent stabbing my own happiness with a jagged-edged blade. So much trouble is unnecessary.

I used to be a moaning, complaining, hate-the-world kind of guy. Because when things didn’t go as I wished, I victimized my own self and blamed my gargantuan misery on the world.

Dude, Why the Hell Are You Unhappy?

Inside our heads, we’re really all kids. We whine and moan when we can’t get it our way. If only this, if only that.

But hey, nobody cares! It’s a hard truth, nobody’s going to make you happy. You are, so you might as well start now:

1. Stop Complaining

Take blows in your stride – nobody finds your complaints interesting, and complaining about your own misery ain’t going to change anything. So you might as well shut up.

Everytime you’re about to complain, stop and think: Is this really useful? Am I helping myself or others by saying this? Is this going to change my situation? If not, you’d better put a sock in it.

Extra Bonus: Girls wimp around all the time. If you want to be a strong alpha male, don’t whine: you’ll appear calm and in control – and women love this.

2. Act and Change Things (Really do!)

If you’re always complaining, then you’re basically putting your potential behind prison bars. Why would anything be worth doing if the world sucks, right?

Dude, the world doesn’t suck, and neither do you. It’s just the way it is, so you have to accept yourself and the world. That’s when you can start changing things.

How do you act? Happiness is the most important element of your life, so be ready to blast anything dangerous to it (~~including women~~) out of the way.

But how do you differentiate real happiness from perceived happiness? You could be mistaken, and causing more harm than good. I’ll write a follow-up post about this soon, subscribe to get noticed when it’s toasted!

3. Confidence is Key

Confidence is really plain responsability: you’ll be confident the day you control your life, and actually accept the world as it is. Don’t hate the world, but don’t hate yourself either. Shit happens. Live with it. Confidence is being able to cope with whatever life throws at you.

Here’s a Smart-Ass Read: How To Stop Being a Wussy.

4. The True Way to Happiness

You start being happy the day you feel you deserve to be happy. By the time you get that feeling, you won’t settle for anything less. You won’t hesitate to trash a destructive, heart-tearing relationship.

There are three ways you can go about the world:

Blame everything on external factors (and do nothing) – side note: your girl is an external factor.

Blame everything on yourself (and do nothing)

Actually do something about it

So everytime you feel low, sad, that your job or relationship sucks, think in your own interest first.

The lesson is: don’t sell your happiness for anything. Love does blind you because you equate a girl or relationship to happiness. You only have one life, so you should intend to live it fully.

It’s time you grab life by the balls.

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How to Not Get Over Your Ex-Girlfriend

Anthony Parkes — Sun, 02 Aug 2009 15:50:17 +0000

Guys like to torture themselves.

Here are some bulletproof techniques to ensure that you don’t get over your ex. I’ve used them before and they work amazingly well.

When it’s over, it’s over. Many guys adopt the “no one can understand me” mindset and get stuck in an endless depression. Depression is pointless. You’re only depressed because you want to. It’s up to you to get back on your feet as quickly as possible.

5 Tactics to Not Get Over Your Ex

#1 – Drink

Drinking in my experience multiplies the power of your emotions by 10 – for the better and the worst. It’s extremely dangerous: one night, I was depressed over my ex and emptied nearly half a bottle of Vodka – I did that alone. First, I nearly committed suicide. Second, I was rushed to hospital and nearly died of alcohol intoxication.

A bad break-up is no excuse to do stupid or careless things. Drinking only makes things worse. Oh, and don’t drink alone, ever.

#2 – Isolate Yourself

Refuse to talk or see anyone, because no one can share your grief. It’s so unfair, nobody can understand you. Thousands of people get dumped every day, so get a grip on yourself. Start going out, have fun.

Please, don’t shut yourself out – it makes things so much harder, and that much worst.

#3 – Beg Her

Dude, you have to keep your dignity and man up. It ain’t the end of the world. Well maybe it is, but only for a short time, I promise. Don’t go back to her and cry the shit out of your eyes. You’re a man, so act like one.

You won’t get her back that way. I’ve tried that, and it doesn’t work. No one is responsible for your happiness, no one can make you happy apart from you. So make the decision to be happy. It’s a question of maturity.

If you desperately want to get her back, you can check out How I Got My Ex-Girlfriend Back. This article is full of tested, foolproof advice to get your ex back.

#4 – Stalk Her

That’s gotta be even worse. The longer you spend seeing, talking, and thinking about her, the slower you’ll get over her. Besides, stalking is creepy, and you’re disrespecting her privacy.

After a break-up, there’s usually no going back. Implement the no-contact rule. Trust me, this is what’s best for your own health.

#5 – Be Depressive

Like I’ve said above, being happy is a personal choice. You can decide to get over her, or you can decide to be depressed. Yes, it’s hard, and it does take a huge amount of willpower, but hey, thousands of great guys like you get over their ex-girlfriends every day. You can do it too.

Don’t take the easy way out. Battle hard for dignity and self-respect. Choose to be happy. You can do it! I’ve helped many guys who were struggling to get over their exes, so if you need any support, help, or motivation, shoot me an email. I’d be honored to help you out.

Getting over her starts with awareness, so build it and learn about the 5 stages to forget about a girl.

Keep well, and keep your dignity. Peace.

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How to Become a Flirting Maestro

Anthony Parkes — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 23:48:06 +0000

Flirting is like making love with words.

Knowing how to flirt is one of the best ways to create attraction. There’s so much power and tension in flirting it’s magnetic.

Flirting is a game. Like any game, it has rules. We’ll explore the rules first, and then cover some flirting tips to make you a pro ;)

Last week, a great article was posted to teach you How to Be Mysterious and Attractive, go check it out first if you haven’t already!

How to Flirt – The Basic Principles

1. Flirting is similar to Hide and Seek. You and the woman have masks on, you’re hiding behind them. You know she’s hiding, and she know you are. You both try to make the other “give in” and take their mask off. This creates mystery and tension – which triggers the attraction.

2. Flirting implies physical proximity. Whether you’re touching each other or not, you’re physically close to each other. This adds up to the tension created by playing “Hide and Seek”

3. Flirting is a power struggle. Both of you are testing each other’s strength. The one that takes his mask off first, loses. As a man wanting to project confidence and dominance, it’s important not to.

4. The Flirting Maestro’s Weapon: Sexual Innuendos. You don’t flirt talking about your job or how tasty the lasagna you ate for lunch was. Flirting is sexual, but it’s subtle. There is never any direct allusion to sex. Sex is implied in open-ended statements or in double-meanings. Flirting Maestros know how to speak.

15 Tips to Become a Flirting Maestro

Once you know the rules, you can apply some flirting techniques to make the attraction ten times stronger. These tips will sky-rocket your flirting drive.

1. Strong Eye Contact – Eye-contact is essential because it allows you to read into her. It creates an immediate and strong bond between the two of you. Don’t look at her eyes, look into her eyes. You can also project confidence with eye contact. This is – by far – the most important tip to be a flirting king.

2. Break the Touch Barrier – Flirting is sexual, so incorporate physical contact. Brush her arm, or stroke her hair. Make it tender, and stay away from “sexual areas” – these kill the mystery, subtlety, and attraction.

3. Open-ended Statements – Use these as often as you possibly can. Mingle your word with double meanings and innuendos. This is all about being ambiguous and mysterious.

4. Don’t Give In – That means you have to stay in this atmosphere of sexual tension as long as you two can hold it. Don’t break any of these rules, or the atmosphere will vanish. You’re playing a game, so play by it’s rules.

5. Obvious Lies – Again, this technique is about playing hide and seek. In the middle of the convo, if she asks a question, make the answer totally irrelevant or fallacious. And make it obvious. That way, you’re confusing her, and frustrating her. Attraction and frustration are similar. Why? In both cases, you don’t get what you want.

6. Don’t Be Direct or Precise, Ever – Create as much mystery and tension as possible. Don’t ever say “Yes” or “No”. Learn to love “possibly” and “maybe” – these are your best friends now. Make her dig every single piece of information out of you. Nothing’s free, not even an answer.

7. Ask Leading Questions – Leading questions imply the answer. For example, “You live in L.A., don’t you?”, instead of “Where do you live?” – When used upon you, make sure you use rule #6 to answer, and fling the question right back at her.

8. Give the Convo a Sexual Twist – Keep in mind that flirting is sexual, so talk about sex, but don’t be crude. Stay light and evasive, subtlety is extremely important. Be mysterious by implying sexuality – double meanings are a great way. I find that being indirect about sex is a real turn-on for women.

9. Talk About Emotions – This allows the two of you to bond strongly. Discussing emotions connects you directly with the other’s feelings. This is very powerful, and makes flirting much more lively.

10. Use a Flirty Voice – Keep your voice down, like you’re telling her a secret. Even better, whisper in her ear. Give yourself a mysterious tone. Again, light and evasive is best.

11. Relax – No one likes a nervous guy. Stop fidgetting, stop looking down or away from her. Look at her straight in the eye, act confident, project confidence. Stay chilled dude.

12. Listen – Really listen to her, you have to be focused on her, 200%. Flirting works best in a quiet and intimate environment. Make sure all of your attention is on her and the convo.

13. Be Aware of Body Language – Project confidence, and watch for cues of sexual attraction:

Playing with her hair
Bending her head sideways
Looking at your lips
Wide pupils
Smiling
Slightly parted lips

Also look out for mirroring, which is when the other person adopts the same posture as you. For example, you put your hand on your lap and she promptly does the same – this is a great indicator of attraction.

14. Make it Slooooowww – Do everything extra slow. Speak slowly, move slowly. Even if there are blanks in the conversation, keep the eye contact going, and keep getting closer.

15. Get Close – Intimacy is created by physical proximity. You should be really, really close to her. Closeness allows you to feel the other’s presence – it’s totally immersive.

Do You Have Any Techniques to Share?

Sharing tips in the comments section would be awesome. If you’ve got any techniques to add, drop your two cents ;)

There’s a great article coming up on how to gauge attraction, and after that I’ll be giving tips on going for the kiss, so subscribe by RSS or email to get notified as soon as the article is published (it’s free!).

Painting: The Lovers by Magritte.

How I Got My Ex-Girlfriend Back

Anthony Parkes — Mon, 20 Jul 2009 15:26:49 +0000

Getting your ex-girlfriend back is a bumpy road to take.

Today I’d like to share some 100% tested and rock-solid advice that helped me get my ex-girlfriend back. But before that, let me do some storytelling.

My Story – How I Got Her Back

One day, Sarah lost hope that things would get better between us. We argued a lot. She came over to me and said “I think it’s time for us to go our separate ways”.

At first, I didn’t blow up – I stayed in control. Ten minutes later I went back to her and begged her – I was emotional and desperate. Didn’t work. One of the worst things I ever did.

Day 1

The next morning, I remained solitary. I was sad, but I guess I didn’t fully grasp the situation yet. She, on the other hand, seemed to be going great.

At noon that day, I decided I was going to get a grip on myself. Look at the bright side of things. Have as much fun I could and hang out with my buddies.

I put the break-up in the back of my head and focused on myself and my friends instead. I actually had a hell of a time. I laughed a lot, and seemed so happy my friends wouldn’t recognize me.

Just as I was on the rise, Sarah hit an all-time low. She’s extremely skilled at hiding her emotions, so I was surprised. She was on the verge of tears. This comforted me and fueled my “happiness”.

We kept riding the emotional yoyo for about two weeks.

The Night I Got Her Back

I was feeling blue again, but I felt like I had changed. I felt like I had spent so much time whining, I didn’t realize how much I wanted her. I felt I was someone new now.

I went up to her and told her this:

I feel different now. I feel like it’s a new me. Listen, I finally found the key to our problem.

You know, we should give each other one last chance. Trust me, it’s going to work this time, and I want to prove it to you. We’ve got nothing to lose: I’m going great now, I feel more mature. If it doesn’t work, we’ll have no regrets.

She hesitated, but in the end she kissed me. She told me that we deserved one last chance. Things have never been better since.

How to Get Your Ex-Girlfriend Back

Now it’s time to focus on you guys. First of all, not all break-ups are created equal:

If you broke up because of a recurrent problem you two had, you stand a chance.
If you cheated on her (you bad man), you might stand a chance.
If she fell out of love with you (i.e. “I need space”) or was never really in love with you, you don’t stand a chance. Sorry.

Here are the key elements to get your ex-girlfriend back:

Don’t Get Your Hopes Up: Treat your relationship like it’s over – forever. No turning back. Do as much as you can to move on. Avoid talking to your ex, as that’s just plain bizarre given the situation.

Don’t Beg Her: Man, you’ve got to keep your dignity. Women stay with you because they love you, not because they want to make you happy.

Women hate wussy behavior, so get rid of it as soon as you can. You don’t need insecurity, you don’t need neediness. You don’t need to be with her, you want to be with her. An entirely different thing. If you beg her, you’ll help her move on :D

Look Back: Spend some alone-time and evaluate what the problem was between you. Did you have problems communicating? Were you too unavailable? Now look at why the problem was. It’s the why that killed you, and you have to reverse that. Running back to her without her trusting the relationship is useless. There has to be a reason for her to change her mind.

Grow: Break-ups are the moments you learn most about yourself, because you’re forced to face reality. Learn those lessons, and grow with them. That’s what life is about.

Be Optimistic: Look at the good side of things. Write down ten things for which you’re incredibly thankful. Remember them. A break-up is the start of something, not the end. Fill yourself with positivity.

It’s OK to Be Human: Don’t be too harsh on yourself, don’t regret anything. Focus on the lesson every “failure” has taught you. Live through your emotions. If you feel like crying, cry the hell out of your eyes. Don’t bottle anything, try not to suppress anything. If you feel the need of being depressed, then be depressed.

Focus on Something Else: Treat yourself, spend time with your pals, focus on your hobbies. These moments when you can empty your head of draining thoughts are real treasures. Use them wisely.

No Bullshit: If you want her back, go right up to her. She has everything to lose. You’re a new guy now, you’ve learnt the lesson, and you’re great fun. She’d be stupid not to want such a gorgeous guy like you. Give yourself one last chance, and after that, no regrets, and no turning back.

You Got Her Back… Now What?

Build attraction. Women doubt a lot when they get back with someone. They don’t know if they’ve done the right thing. The higher the attraction, the lower the doubts, the better the relationship. Focus as much as you can on building attraction.

Solve the problem. Be who you are, not who she wants you to. Unleash your reality and plug into you identity. Otherwise you’re a wussy, and women don’t like that, remember? Live with that new, amazing self you tapped into.

Be happy and appreciative, and all of a sudden you’ll realize she is too. Express, always.

We insist on making things so complicated by not expressing, not living, that it ends up strangling parts of our life. Smash through that, and start being who you really are. It makes life that much easier.

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How to Be Mysterious and Attractive

Anthony Parkes — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 21:55:16 +0000

Mystery. Women love it.

But why are mysterious guys so attractive to women? Why do they magnetize women that much? How do they do it?

These questions are harder to answer. If you want to know how to be insanely mysterious and attractive, read on.

Why is Mystery so Attractive?

Studies have shown that attraction is similar to a state of frustration. People are attracted when they have a need, and when that need is not satisfied – fully.

There are a couple of key reasons to why being mysterious is so damn sexy:

1. It’s not boring – Truly mysterious guys that intrigue women are pretty rare. So when women find one, the guy stands out and projects a strong aura around him. Mystery is instant charisma.

2. Curiosity – Human beings are naturally curious. Being mysterious is like teasing someone. Women want to know more about you, yet you don’t divulge everything. You’re creating a need. Women will need you.

3. Evoking – By being mysterious, you let women fill in the gap. You have them thinking about you, imagining who you could possibly be. Imagination is strongly linked to feelings and emotions. Mystery triggers these – instantly.

A mysterious guy is attractive because of what he evokes. Mystery is exciting and enthralling.

Mystery doesn’t imply being quiet or socially withdrawn. I have a good friend who does this excellently. Lots of people come up to me and says, “Hey, I hang out with Tom a lot, but I realize I don’t know anything about him. It’s weird!” (Tom, smile if you’re reading :) ).

Tom has loads of friends, and always got the women he wanted. He has strong social status and goes out a lot. But he doesn’t talk about himself, and changes the subject hastily when people do talk about him. That’s the key.

7 Tips to Be Mysterious and Attractive

1. Open-ended Questions – These fuel the mystery. Chose your words carefully, avoid being too direct with what you want. Make the woman jump through the hoops you set. Be the one testing her.

2. Double Meanings and Ambiguity – To be mysterious and attractive, ambiguity is a must. Stay vague, and try to insert double meanings in what you say. Make sure there are many different interpretations to anything you say.

3. Smile – That superior, know-it-all, come-and-get-it smile. One good smile can make a woman fall for you – it’s happened to me, and women have told me so.

4. Strong Eye-Contact – Be bold, undress her with your eyes. It makes her feel uncomfortable, but it gives you extreme power. The “I gotcha” type of look works perfectly.

5. Focus on Her – Like Tom does. Women talk a lot about themselves, let her do so and don’t complain. Try to talk about emotions and feelings, instead of plain old facts (e.g. stay away from boring conversations about jobs, hobbies, etc…) Bring it on!

6. Confidence – To be mysterious and attractive, you must have the initiative. You’ve got to be superior (Note: that doesn’t mean arrogant or pompous). Stop being a Wussy.

7. Stoicism – Build self-control. Do everything slowly and calmly. Keep your voice down. Don’t act like you’re impressed. Restrain from showing too much emotion (in your body language). Read “The Stranger” by Albert Camus. Allow sensations, but keep emotions from showing.

Being mysterious and attractive usually triggers intense flirting. I’ll be covering flirting and sharing tips in the next few days, so keep sharp for more on mystery and flirting. Subscribe by RSS or email to get notified as soon as the article is published.

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A Foolproof Way to Build Confidence

Anthony Parkes — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 14:25:21 +0000

Confidence is sexy. Building confidence is hard.

I’d like to share with you a concrete way you can build confidence to get more women. It’s called starting a project, but not just any project.

This project triples the benefits – that’s right. It improves three areas of your life, but it requires focus and determination… Still with me?

Why You Should Start Lifting Weights Today

Weight-lifting is a surefire tactic to build confidence and get more women. Let me explain why:

1. You Feel Good in your Body

Feeling good in your body translates into more extroversion and comfort around others, especially women. You feel less self-conscious about your body. It allows you to free yourself of self-limited beliefs, like “looks matter to women”.

Yes guys, big news, looks do matter to women. Every human being experiences physical attraction. But more importantly, well-built guys think that looks matter. As a result, they are more confident around women, and that multiplies their chances of success by like, a thousand.

Weight-lifting allows you to do just that – build the body you want – if you’re invested and committed to it.

Start by feeling good about yourself, then worry about making women feel good about you (and your body).

2. You Feel Good in Your Head

Egg-heads have proved that exercising is good for your mental health too. Regular exercise makes you less nervous and happier.

This means calmer body language. You convey a happy and soothing image. All of a sudden, you’re “cool”. You get known for being a chilled out, relaxed guy.

This makes you look in control. Projecting self-control and confidence is a no-brainer when it comes to women. They absolutely love this.

Special Bonus: You’re Extra Sexy

Women like active guys – guys that do stuff with their lives other than sitting in front of the TV with a can of beer.

Doing sports shows you like to compete (all sports are a form of “competition”: you face either yourself or an opponent, or both). Competing is a fundamentally masculine trait. Yes guys, doing sports is a manly thing.

Women buy manly traits. Start weight-lifting, and all of a sudden you’re that sexy, sweaty guy who likes to get dirty…

Special Bonus #2: You Feel Horny

In short, exercising gets you on an “emotional trip”. Feelings and experiences are intensified.

And there are many, many more benefits of exercising.

5 Tips to Help You Get There

1. Set Reasonable Goals – Setting your standards too high will lead to deception and eventually, you’ll quit – even though you’ve been doing great! It’s the little things that build confidence.

Small goals + Big actions = Success.

2. Don’t be too harsh with yourself, look at the brighter side of things – it makes life considerably easier, trust me.

Failure is a problem only if it kills your motivation. Make failure inspire you to do better next time, to invest more dedication and effort into what you undertake. Turn fear into your ally, and you’re better off than 99% of the guys out there.

3. Don’t compare yourself to others. Guess what? Everybody’s different. Some get results quicker and easier than others, some have to battle through harder and longer.

If it’s harder for you, it’ll only make you prouder when you succeed. Don’t let anything or anyone demotivate you – you’re the only one who can do that.

4. Concrete focus and motivation – This is a big one. People want quick success, jump into a project, don’t get the results they expected and jump into another “quick-success project”. They end up never achieving anything.

Success requires focus. And commitment. When starting anything, always give 200% of what you’ve got. And stay focused on what you want most. No need to waste that energy somewhere else.

5. Join a Community. As much as others can kill your motivation, when others are undertaking a similar project, it can boost your motivation – so much.

More experienced people can help you get better, can give you tips and advice. You can find yourself a “mentor”. It makes life easier too.

Let’s Get You Started – Start Pumping Iron!

Once you’ve decided to give weight-lifting your best shot, I suggest you go straight to StrongLifts, a site focused on helping you gaining muscle.

I’ve tested many different programs to build strength and muscle. StrongLifts is the best resource out there. Hands down. Here’s why:

The blog’s author, Mehdi, is extremely supportive.
The articles cover all topics related to strength training – technique, safety, nutrition etc…
Look strong and actually BE strong.
Do you want to gain weight or lose weight? It’s all there!
A community of hundreds of other men helping each other out every day.
It’s 100% FREE.

Rush over to StrongLifts and see for yourself!

Start building confidence, attracting more women, and being stronger today! Three killer benefits for one project! Ready… Set… Go!

Images by Aelle and Will Lion.

A Bulletproof Tactic to Attract Beautiful Women

Anthony Parkes — Mon, 13 Jul 2009 10:00:33 +0000

Men always try to put on a show for women.

Many make false assumptions about what women want. They end up losing a girl they could have gotten easily – by just being themselves.

Simplicity and honesty are what work best in life – not only with women. A realization I’ve come to is that a powerful way to attract women is to… visualize them as your best buddies.

“What?”

Let me explain.

Why You Should Visualize Beautiful Women as Men

1. Direct, Brutal Honesty – Honesty is something women love. Women will fall in love with you if you’re a direct, no-bullshit guy. And that’s what you are with your pals.

To be brutally honest is to be brutally confident. To be brutally confident is to be brutally sexy.

2. No More Shyness – Trembling and stuttering, that’s all part of the past now. You’re now an open, extroverted guy, with strong and confident body language, just like you are with your pals.

3. It’s the Real You – You meet up with this beautiful woman, and after a couple of dates she realizes you’re completely different to what she initially thought. That’s bad for business, man.

4. Beautiful Women are Tired of Being Idealized and taking men’s unwanted attention all day long. By refusing to idealize women, you’re standing way out of the crowd. You’re grabbing their attention.

How to Change the Way you See Beautiful Women

It’s easier than you think. If you’ve ever been friends with a hot girl without being attracted to her, you’ll know what I mean.

1. Study your behavior when you’re with your pals. How are you speaking? What’s your posture? Are you outgoing? Become aware of who you truly are.

2. Realize how guys adapt their behavior to please beautiful women. Just look around! I see it every day. “Changing” who you are to please someone is being a wussy. Stop being a wussy!

3. Look at the lack of confidence men display around beautiful women. Look for the fear of rejection in their eyes, the tension in their voice, the awkwardness of their posture. Realize how you sometimes act that way around beautiful women, and how pointless it is. Reject that attitude.

4. Practice! Every time you have the opportunity, try visualizing beautiful women as men. It works like a charm, I promise!

5. It’s one girl, and maybe you’ll blow it. So what? There are plenty of other fish to catch. She’s missing the opportunity to date a great guy (you!) – not the other way round.

6. Don’t try too hard. Stay natural. Natural is always best. Who are you? What are you like? What 3 words define you? Try to convey that image when you talk to people.

7. Play it cool… Chill. Relax. Breathe. Eat kiwis. Whatever works for you is fine.

I’ve tried this technique many times before, and I guarantee it’s a killer tactic. Good luck guys, and remember to share your success in the comments section below ;)

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The Pocket-sized Guide to Success with Women

Anthony Parkes — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 06:52:15 +0000

Let’s cut the crap.

How many times have you read about building confidence? Getting attention? How and when to kiss women? How to keep your girl? How to deal with a break-up? How to get your ex back? And the list goes on… What you need is the core ideas.

Are you remembering anything you’re reading? You can probably give the basics of the advice you read. But today, people are overwhelmed with tips that get them lost in an ocean of noise.

The purpose of this resource is to give you the key principles you need to know to be successful with women. No need to go into any unnecessary detail – what we want is a one-stop page with the vital knowledge in simple, bite-sized, and digestible chunks.

Let’s stay simple. Here we go.

How to Build Confidence

Do something you’re good at.
Start a new project.
Go to the gym. If you feel great about your body, you’ll feel great about yourself.
Face your fears. It’s the only way to master them.
Express your feelings and emotions, don’t surpress.

How to Meet New Women

Have the guts to go over and say “Hi!” – most guys don’t, and this shows confidence.
Women in bars and clubs are usually looking for free drinks, not a boyfriend.
Be different – “You look stunning, can I buy you a drink?” is boring.

How to Attract Women

Body language matters – for projecting confidence and gauging attraction.
Be confident – women like that.
Tease her, I beg you!
Have style: be classy and groomed.
Flirt – That might be of some use…
Leaders get the girls.
Don’t be a passive guy. Always take action.
Build tension, create anticipation.
Your enemies are insecurity and neediness.
Listen to her, and look into her eyes.

How to Kiss a Girl

Slow down, boy!
Remember to savor the kiss.
Watch your breath dude!
Make sure your lips aren’t dry.
Keep your tongue on a leash.

How to Get your Ex Back

Don’t get your hopes up.
Get a life outside your relationship (and show you have one).
Bet on what made her fall for you.

How to Get Over your Ex

No contact. Ever.
Focus on doing what you love.
Write and share your story.
Focus on making others happy.
Start a new project.

Have anything to add?

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How to Stop Being a Wussy

Anthony Parkes — Sat, 13 Jun 2009 15:44:54 +0000

Wussness, wussity, pussyness, whatever. You’ve all heard the love doctors say “stop being a wussy!” and “become a challenge!”.

A lot of ‘em will teach you what challenge is, but not how to stop being a wussy. Which is much harder. Challenge can’t be faked, it’ll come naturally if you stop being a wussy.

Wussies relate their own happiness to someone else’s. If you don’t want women to play you, you’re going to have to cure your wussness. You have to treat it like a disease to get rid of it. This is how you do it:

Wait a Second…What’s a Wussy?

A wussy has two major attributes:

1. Insecurity – A wussy always hang on the woman he is attracted to. The wussy constantly look for her approval, and acts on the basis of her response. Basically, the wussy will try to do anything to please the woman he likes. The wussy shows lack of confidence – extremely unattractive to women. You want to turn that around: the woman should be seeking your approval.

2. Neediness – A wussy gets sad or angry when the woman he likes doesn’t give him attention. He craves attention and affection. He is desperate for her to hang around with him all day long. No wonder she doesn’t – how boring’s a wussy?

Wussnes = More Wussness

A lot of guys start off being challenges, and as their interest in the woman they’re trying to attract increases, start being wussbags. What you must understand is that wussness is a major turn-off for women. Women need a secure, confident man that doesn’t need their approval. Let me say that again.

Women need a secure, confident man that doesn’t need their approval. Not a wussy.

So, guys gradually become wussies after falling head over heels for a woman: they seek more and more approval, time, and affection. This turns the woman off, and she gives less approval, time, and affection. Which causes the man to become even more insecure and needy, even more wussy-like.

Bad Bad Bad. She’ll eventually become so bored to death by his insecurity and neediness that the woman will leave the wussy for a manlier man. The wussy is rejected by the woman he wants – his insecurity grows.

Wussness = more Wussness.

How to Stop Being a Wussy, Step by Step

You must recognize first of all that a lot of the points I’m about to make will seem counter-intuitive, so you’re going to have to believe me – or see for yourself.

The road you’re about to take is bumpy, but everybody can do it. It takes a lot of perseverance, strength, and will. It’s a constant battle. You’ll need a great deal of instrospection. Here we go…

Step 1: Looking Back and Discovering your Inner Wuss

Realize all the wussy mistakes that you’ve made. Laugh about those mistakes, don’t despair about ‘em. Imagine what a challenge would have done, and compare that to what you did.

This will allow you to recognize your wussness. Realizing your insecurity and neediness will also motivate you to stop being a wussy – and you’re gonna need a hell of a lot of motivation.

Step 2: Build Confidence and Self-Esteem

Insecurity = Lack of Confidence

If you think you’re a piece of shit, others will to. Guaranteed.

You might want to change that if you want to build attraction. Start building confidence and self-esteem today, it’ll increase your potential in anything you wish to pursue in life. Read these:

Step 3: A Fresh, Green Start

To stop being a wussy is a long term effort. Accept that your woman’s interest in you won’t change over night. Look forwards at all times: there will be moments of doubt, moments where you feel all your efforts are useless.

Look at yourself with a new eye, and break free from your limited beliefs.

Never freeze on or over-analyze a situation or response. Become an optimist, look for a lesson and the good in every situation. Keep track of progress and make a list of everything showing improvement. These links will help you:

Change Your Mindset and Instantly Become an Alpha Male
How to Be Positive
Empowered Quotes – Inspirational quotes about hapiness, motivation, negativity, etc…
Optimistic Quotes
How to Quiet Your Mind – and stop over-analyzing.
6 Steps to Eliminate Limited Beliefs

Step 4: Stop Being Too Available!

Don’t let her end dates, conversations, etc… You are in control, you decide how long you talk to each other, how long you see each other. Even if you don’t have anything else to do, invent an excuse.

Why? If you’re too available, you’ll lose value, and to build attraction, you must create value.

If you stop being too available, it’ll also show you have other things going on in life apart from the woman you’re interested in. It shows independance, instead of neediness. Major point-scorer.

Step 5: Tease, tease, tease

Women (especially attractive ones) are always testing you, to see how much interest you have. Example:

Her: “Hey, look at my new dress! Isn’t it gorgeous?”
Wussy: “Wow! You look amazing!”
Man: (smiling, or with a light tone) “I don’t care…” (Important note here!)

Make fun of her as often as you possibly can. If she gets offended (hits your arm, says you’re mean), keep doing it! Just keep it light, or you’ll look like a jerk. Somewhere between the wuss and the jerk is the unpredictable guy – that’s what you’re looking for.

Read How to Be Funny and Top 10 Ways to Tease a Woman.

Step 6: Be Unpredictable and Mysterious

David DeAngelo taught me to never give women a direct answer, unless it’s a “no”. Make her dig every single bit of information out of you, and only if you allow her to.

Alex Kay likes the “two step forward, one step backward” technique.

Over to You

Of all the advice available, it’s hard to separate crap from gold. I’ve found David DeAngelo’s “Double Your Dating” Ebook extremely valuable to teach you how to stop being a wussy and attract women – grab it today!

I hope my advice was useful to you guys! Feel free to ask for help or share success stories in the comments section below. Cheers!

Images by Lst1984 and fmc.nikon.d40.

The Vicious Circle of Insecurity and How To Break It

Anthony Parkes — Sun, 26 Apr 2009 14:39:26 +0000

Two case scenarios:

Case #1: The Insecure Guy

Imagine an incarnation of insecurity. This guy enters a restaurant, and spots a hot woman. Dozens of questions rush through his mind, his heart pounds the hell out of his chest.

He talks to her. His voice sounds as insecure as he is. Hesitations, too many of ‘em. A childish, ear-to-ear smile glued on his face.

The girl disdains him. “Another idiot who has a crush on me, how boring…” Wrong first impression. He will try hard to be nice to her, fulfill every wish she has. He will never get her.

He takes a bash from this woman. He thinks: “I can’t do this. No one will ever want me. I guess that’s just the way things are… some men are lucky, others aren’t.”

That guy just multiplied his insecurity by 10.

Case #2: Alex Kay a.k.a The Confident Guy

Alex Kay bumps into a beautiful girl. He buys her a drink, and plays fun games with her. “Wow, how exciting he is! How charming!” Laidback Alex doesn’t care what she does, or how she reacts. He’s got everything to offer, and nothing to lose.

Right before they part, she stuffs a piece of paper into his hand . You can see a scribbled phone number on it. Heck, he didn’t even ask for it! He’ll call her in a week’s time, when he feels like it. Immediate date.

Alex Kay just multiplied his confidence by 10.

Insecurity Breeds Insecurity. Confidence Breeds Confidence

Men’s confidence depends on women. The insecure guy stays that way because he is rejected by women. It all goes in an endless circle.

How do you transform a vicious circle into a virtuous circle? How do you get to confidence nirvana? It’s simple: it takes courage, and guts. You’re going to have to want it, real bad.

How To Break the Vicious Circle of Insecurity

1. Breathe – Be calm. Pull yourself together. Breathe slowly, and steadily. Great confidence boost, use it!

2. Eye Contact – Essential if you want to project confidence and melt her heart. Look her dead in the eye. That’ll make her uncomfortable and improve your confidence.

3. Recognition – Missing this chick is no big deal. You’ve got 3 billion others to chose from.

4. Talk – Let her do the talking. Women talk a lot. Better, they often talk about things that embarrass them. What a great opportunity to tease her!

5. Trust your own judgement and use your voice to project confidence.

6. Time Alone – Spend some time after she left to assess how the date went. What could you have done better? What did you do right? What did her body language tell you? This will blow your confidence levels through the roof ;)

Image by piotr.amigo.